My tenants had just moved in and backed the u-haul into my gate. The gate was damaged and I was pissed to the highest level of pisstivity...
TURNS OUT...he was the UGLY, low narrow-minded cheapskate...just keep reading
He was still on a mission to father me on the importance of not stressing out and I was more receptive since I reminded him of his grandma and whatnot.
I woud impersonate my favorite nail tech. MY Vietnamese accent is quite spot on, even the views concur
I sent him a meme about a woman who said being told what to do bothered her until she realized it wasnt, do what I'm telling you to do because "I said so" but because I care about you.
He took that and flipped it into something that further contributed to desire to dominate every part of my being and strip me of my autonomy.
Im sensitive to noise and was trying to sleep at my cousin's house but she had dogs, slept with the tv on and a bunch of other shit.
I was expressing my discomfort. Further solidifying that the things that made me uncomfortable at the massage parlor were actual issues for me, not just me "complaining" for the fuck of it.
I had no clue what the fuck had ticked Moody Judy off this time but I didnt want to investigate and end up in another argument so I just continued to lead with humor and love.
FrampCamp Goodman loves apple juice and my cousin had some in her airbnb. It made me think of him and I thought it would be sweet to let him know and also to start a shared activity that would inspire us both to send each other sweet reminders when we were apart.
And this is what he decided to send me instead.
He hated me for a long time. All the signs were there, I was just too blinded by own on love for him to see it.
FrampCamp GoodMan shared with me that he was upset that she was not holding her son accountable to the expertise routine he wanted him to be on . He also shared with me that she shared with him that she personally was unhappy with her weight and was heavier than she wanted to be.
I told him, youre upset with her for not keeping him accountable to do things that SHE wont even do for herself.
Thats was not logical. And once I said it it clicked.
He shared that his biggest concern was that his child would become lazy and overweight like her side of the family.
To the best of my memory he said she fucking my son up, I got good genes, he come from a long line of athletes and I'll be damned if my genetics turn into that!
I tried offering solutions
He was checking my timeline to see if niggas were overlapping as if he himself hadnt had several pots on several burners on the same stove at the same time, for years.
Cartoon was an animator for a big company...BUT Nigerian, and told me that his wife couldnt work her only job would be to take care of his house translation, he too wanted a domestic slave he could abuse financially.
FrampCamp GoodMan wanted to "breed me" and sit me the fuck down. Take full ownership of my life through the baby. He wanted the pain of childbirth to humble me. He threatened me with that in the beginning.
He also wanted me to be thicker and fantasized how my body would look post baby.
He also thought the baby would be the magical thing that could change my alcoholic mother
His view of him giving me his child was that it was him "blessing me"
I was looking at his life and all the complaints he had about his children and being a parent. He was taking naps his car at parks just to get some rest.
None of that sounded like a blessing to me, sounded more burdensome than anything. Plus my closest homegirls had children and I heard ALL of their regrets.
The baby is always the MOM's...I wasnt sure If I were ready to trade my freedom in, in that way.
It was established that if he met me an I had a kid already then he would not have dealt with me in that fashion.
Here comes Angry CUZ with brute force.
Per usual I was explaining how the
miscommunication took place in a very linear and logical way.
But he felt he had a point and was standing on anger and fitna "rely on the INTERNET to solve everything" and "prove his point" so he could keep going "back and forth with me"
aint that funny lmao
He went long for his point!
Caught it!
Dropped it in the chat!
Ran with it!
AND was running full speed!
NIggas thought he... could...go...all..the..wayyyyyyy!
Then he got tackled by my logical question.
It knocked the ball out of his hand and instead of accepting it he got up and told the ref that because IN HIS MIND he never dropped the ball, possession of it was still his.
Lmao did I explain that in football terms correctly?
I was over it like ok, its just words, chill but nope..
A perosn who breaks stuff when he is angry was UPSET because I said he throws temper tantrums...
The Manipulative Behavior: This meaning comes from the verb "to groom," originally used in the 19th century to describe brushing horses or preening. In the late 20th century, this metaphor evolved to describe how abusers befriend, isolate, and manipulate someone (often a younger person) over time to make them compliant for exploitation.
It's quite barf worthy when you think about it as "grooming" is what abusers do to kids.
But none the less he was proud to be my groom and to manipulate me.
True growth on my end coming from the motherfuck, who refused to google gate to see that the words were not interchangeable and his incorrect usage is what cause the miscommunication.
And temper tantrum was the correct word for it. Though I was wrong to say it in this instance there were plenty real ones that I experienced, ONNA DEAD HOMIES!